A long time ago someone who I don’t remember(otherwise I’d give credit where it’s due), put a list of things that “masculine men don’t do.” It was a simple list, but also a critique of the game and manosphere back in the day. Masculine men didn’t “try to act masculine,” “read about how to be more masculine,” and “tell people they were masculine.” And this person was right — in a way. Masculine men don’t do these things and you’d probably question how masculine he actually was if he did. This might offend some young men who might read me, but I feel I must touch on this “paradox” of masculinity.
There must be something in the air, I just wrote a post along the same wavelength as this. I think one of the hardest things for those who are struggling to get in touch with their own masculinity is the multitude of guides and gurus who are all too ready to provide them with a complicated roadmap to something that is already inside. Some men will follow these neatly prepared "masculinity at home" kits to the bitter end, never realizing along the way that it could be a "bill of goods."
Conversely there is a bourgeoning body of writing on masculinity that is nothing more than a feminine repackaging of the masculine - it is an "acceptable" form of masculinity that in no way resembles actual masculinity. I think of it as "castration" by ideology. This what young boys are subject to in their school rooms as their mostly female teachers and school psychologists tell them to sit on their hands, keep their eyes on their paper, don't climb the tree, don't show off. It is the systematic neutering of a whole generation of men - hobbling them and molding them into impotent dispassionate people who spend of the rest of their lives trying to fill the hole in their identity with Darth Maul bobbleheads and Disney+ Marvel shows.
Thanks for providing an alternative voice, more of us need to speak up.
🤝 Yes, thank you. @cosair21 mentioned on twatter yesterday that the word masculinity itself is a modern word that appeared in 1960s. It’s basically a construct of acadamia and likely used to crush manliness.
Considering using the word “masculinity” entirely.
Wasting time defining masculinity academically defies the basic rules of masculinity. Masculinity does not require it. You simply know what it is when you see it. Trying to create expansive sociological definitions is simply playing by their rules. Unnecessary.
There must be something in the air, I just wrote a post along the same wavelength as this. I think one of the hardest things for those who are struggling to get in touch with their own masculinity is the multitude of guides and gurus who are all too ready to provide them with a complicated roadmap to something that is already inside. Some men will follow these neatly prepared "masculinity at home" kits to the bitter end, never realizing along the way that it could be a "bill of goods."
Conversely there is a bourgeoning body of writing on masculinity that is nothing more than a feminine repackaging of the masculine - it is an "acceptable" form of masculinity that in no way resembles actual masculinity. I think of it as "castration" by ideology. This what young boys are subject to in their school rooms as their mostly female teachers and school psychologists tell them to sit on their hands, keep their eyes on their paper, don't climb the tree, don't show off. It is the systematic neutering of a whole generation of men - hobbling them and molding them into impotent dispassionate people who spend of the rest of their lives trying to fill the hole in their identity with Darth Maul bobbleheads and Disney+ Marvel shows.
Thanks for providing an alternative voice, more of us need to speak up.
🤝 Yes, thank you. @cosair21 mentioned on twatter yesterday that the word masculinity itself is a modern word that appeared in 1960s. It’s basically a construct of acadamia and likely used to crush manliness.
Considering using the word “masculinity” entirely.
Wasting time defining masculinity academically defies the basic rules of masculinity. Masculinity does not require it. You simply know what it is when you see it. Trying to create expansive sociological definitions is simply playing by their rules. Unnecessary.